Dear Dr. Jean,
My 2 year old is being bullied by a peer in his preschool program. Every morning and every night, our son cries about not wanting to go to school. He begs to stay home. Before we knew he was being picked on, the school had called us asking if something had changed at home because our usually happy, smiley 2 year old was inconsolable at school. A few weeks later, our son was able to tell us about his experience and name the child who was pushing, hitting and being mean to him. We scheduled a meeting with his school only to be told that our son needs to adjust how he reacts to this stimulation and learn to regulate his emotions (essentially toughen up). Me, being the sensitive parent I am, immediately got my back up. It saddened me to think that this little boy who is kind, caring and praised for being the most empathetic in his class, would need to change who he is rather than seeking ways to address the bullying behaviour. How can a sensitive parent like myself help my little guy through this tough times without trying to get him to toughen up?
Sam (Parent / Caregiver)